Friday, March 9, 2012

Post-Relationship Breakup: 5 Simple Healing Strategies to Help You Move On

There comes a point when you must face the obvious - it's time to move on. No amount of waiting, remembering, soul-searching or crying is going to bring back the love of your life if he or she is no longer interested in being part of that relationship. Some people find it easy to move on. Others struggle with it. But in the end, short of a complete emotional meltdown, moving on is the only thing left to do.
Everyone's circumstances are different, and there is no "one size fits all" solution, but following these steps might make it easier to get out of bed in the morning:
1. Remember, it's not your fault. Relationships fail for a variety of reasons. Chances are, whatever caused yours to fall apart has more to do with the relative strength of the relationship, and less to do with any single cause you might try to convince yourself of. Sure there are exceptions to this but they are rare. Beating yourself up over something that you have no control over is not the answer.
2. Go outside. Unless you live in the world's harshest climate, getting outside of your four walls will do wonders for your mental (and physical) well-being. It's amazing how a simple walk can clear your head, and help you focus on something other than your broken heart. It's too easy to build an emotional prison within your own living space. Break out of there!
3. Turn off the music. Or, at the very least, stop listening to the same depressing love songs over and over. It's only natural to project your life into the music, and shuffling through your emotional playlist forces you to relive the hurt again and again. If you want to listen to something, try your workout playlist!
4. Don't be a hermit. Yes, there will be a period during which you will want to withdraw. Call it inner reflection. Call it mourning. Call it anything you want, but realize that the longer this goes on, the harder it is to get back to where you need to be. Rely on your network of friends and family to help support you.
5. Reward yourself. Cherish the small victories and reward yourself accordingly. Have that piece of cheesecake. Buy those new shoes you've been eying. Positive reinforcement is very important, especially now.
Remember that Life is a journey and this is only a setback. The sun will come up tomorrow. Things will improve. You will love again.
Stephen Belyea
The "Relationship Guru" does not exist. We're all trying to make sense of what happens, and we can all learn a little bit from each other. Don't be afraid to stop by and say "Hi".
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